We as parents did everything for our only daughter. We gave her an apartment so that she could have her own and not take a mortgage. We helped in the first months with everything we could. Now my son-in-law and daughter live in a two-room apartment, which only formally belongs to my husband and me, but it is my daughter’s apartment. My daughter never denied herself anything. She wore fashionable clothes, ate all the most delicious things, but everything has changed since she got married. He is not that petty and not that stingy, but they live very economically. They buy new things very rarely and if they do, they buy cheap ones, they don’t go to restaurants and they don’t travel abroad.
This means – don’t get sick, don’t lose your job, don’t miss a payment. In short, the situation is difficult, because it is difficult to refuse children, because they see and want, and how not to buy? The guy is saving for an apartment, but since the prices are crazy, he decided to take out a mortgage and is saving for the down payment. – Why do you need to buy another apartment? – My friend asked surprised. – Exactly, they have a roof over their heads, and they want to take a new apartment and even a mortgage. My son-in-law says that this is not my apartment and that’s why I want my own – I replied. Probably, he thinks immediately about the bad, if they accidentally divorce, he will have no place to live.
I understand everything, but they have children and love each other, so why go to extremes? I asked my daughter to persuade him, but she says that it is useless, and he has already decided and is not going to change his mind. Another problem is that they have been living in the daughter’s house for 5 years, and there are still no repairs. – It’s not my house and I will not do repairs in it – the son-in-law says. And whose house is it if not yours? It’s some kind of nonsense. Probably, he will buy his own, and then repair it there. Maybe he is right: while you have money, you need to save, and while you have the opportunity to try to buy an apartment, you should use it. But not at the same price?
