It happened to my grandmother. I went to bed, got sick. And she was running out of food at home. I thought to call my neighbor, let her bring some bread from the store. But then I thought – I am not so hungry, do I need bread? You can eat soup anyway. And it’s okay, I ate it. She was not hungry. And she did without asking. And to be honest, she remembered how she asked this neighbor to bring milk, she could not step on her foot after the dislocation.
But she brought the milk the next day, when the woman had already eaten porridge with water. And it was fine, with butter and a spoonful of jam. No need, she says, to give up independence even in trifles, no need to ask. So there is excitement, there are impossible ways to solve problems. And life becomes easier.
You need to do everything yourself. And she began to live by this principle. She did not borrow money, she managed. I knew: friends will give. Mom will give. But would they be happy, maybe they had something important planned? They would give it, or curse, and then quietly leave. The mother will stay, but she will be nervous: will she return the money on time or will she have to remind?
And is everything okay with her daughter? And most importantly – you can not ask something from children. Unless it is an extreme case, if there is a real emergency. And if you have a fever or are sad, too lazy to go to the store – then do without milk. Porridge is also food, if you are hungry – you can eat even that. But you will fall asleep calmly, without touching anyone. Then, later, you will go for milk. If you were not invited to your birthday, they decided to celebrate the New Year without you – so be it.
No need to hint, ask, bribe: -I don’t know what to choose for you as a gift. You don’t have to. They will call you – you will choose, but for now, do not impose anything on yourself. Will you not find something to occupy and entertain yourself? I don’t believe it! Don’t feel sorry for yourself. Do not think, they say, you have raised a son, and there is no one to send for milk. Nowhere to go, no one to call. It is resentment that strangles you.
Being offended will take all your last strength. Do not wait for other people’s money or attention, so the last relationship will collapse. Thank God that you can do without requests, get out of it. After all, you are doing well as long as you cope by yourself. And they will come. They’ll bring money and milk. They will invite you to visit. Just think about it: does the truth make your heart feel bad after a request?
