It was a year and a half ago in the winter, my son was 5 months old. My husband’s brother asked him and his girlfriend to stay with us for a week. What a brother to do, how can you say no? I was certainly not thrilled with the idea, after all, the baby was just born, I am not sleeping, not finishing eating, do not have time, and then another relatives do not give rest. I thought that they would help me, at least I would have a rest, and there would be someone to chat with and drink tea with.
They waited, came, with empty hands to live with us for a week, at least would have bought the child a rattle, and that happiness, not me, but the child. I have a rule in a house where there is a child, I do not go empty-handed, not so brought up, but here it seems another case.
They came on the girl’s husband brother’s business, they did not tell us exactly what it was.
I was a good hostess, I cooked, cleaned, met them well. And everything seemed fine, but for these few days while they were in our house, she never once offered to help me cook, clean, or even help with the baby while I do the housework.
She goes out in the morning to run her errands, her boyfriend sleeps till noon, my husband is at work, and I run around the apartment with the baby. So she goes to run some errands, comes back and lies on the couch till evening, lying on the couch, resting on her side, or watching TV.
I am with an infant in his arms and wash the floors, as the winter outside, slush, they go back and forth dirt everywhere on the floor, and eat to prepare, and the baby to feed and wash.
I.e. to offer elementary malomalnuyu help, well at least peel potatoes for soup I have not heard from it.
On the 3rd day to be a servant I got tired, all the same, I and the nights I do not sleep, to the child get up, but not the essence. I told my husband my grievances, and he only shrugged his shoulders, it is not appropriate for a man to get involved in a women’s dispute.
They do not buy food, burn electricity, take baths, pouring water, do not buy food in the store, with household chores do not help and what am I all this? On the 4th day my husband came home from work, and these happy ones were off to the movies.
In 4 hands we quickly coped with his cooking, we ate and then on the ready and relatives arrived, probably went to the smell. They brought a lot of beer, various snacks, and I do not know, you go breastfeeding mother to the side stand, well, at least 1 would have bought a cake and that’s good, but no see no deserved.
And the happy couple had dinner and went into the hall to watch a movie and her husband is called, they say come with us. And I was so offended and then I got bombed, I took her aside and said:
– I’m sorry, of course, but you would at least once these days to offer me your help, I’m with a child in his arms too tired. At least peel potatoes for soup, or just offer help.
– Are you going to tell me off? I don’t think it’s appropriate! I’m tired, too. (I wonder what she’s tired of, the couch?)
– What? Honey, you’re in my apartment. I’m not your guest, you’re my guest.
– I’m not gonna listen to this!
– You know what my dear, pack your things and let’s get out of here!!!
They packed their things and were gone. I cried for a long time afterwards from resentment.
How do you think it is normal to behave this way?
