I want to ask for advice, because I don’t understand what is going on right now in my love story with the man I love. Maybe you can see better from the outside and help me find answers.
It so happened that my beloved moved to the city for work in the capital because his workplace was downsized and he was in an executive position, and there is no suitable job for him in the district center. I work as an English teacher in a school. I have two children from a previous marriage. We have been dating this man for two years.
And so, every weekend either he goes to my place or I go to his. When he moved to town, we had a serious talk with him about either breaking up or looking for options and living together since it was time. He said that when he finds a job, we’ll see. I found a job, but I’m not satisfied with the salary. I have a pretty high income, as I’m an English teacher and have the opportunity to earn more on the Internet, despite the area where I live, the work is stable, and just with two children just do not risk to move, so before you think about moving, you need to weigh everything.
We went to each other for four months, we met the New Year together. And then I noticed his correspondence in his phone with a girl he was dating before me, she is much younger than him, lives with his parents in the village and nowhere to work. He apologizes to her, he is very guilty, and she says to him: “Let’s not fight, kisses, hugs. Moreover, I looked at this correspondence in his hands in his phone, he showed me and said that there was nothing of the kind, and I asked him to show me, because in recent weeks he often disappears online and does not read or answer me. Before that all the messages with her just deleted, I guess he forgot he didn’t delete these.
After that we started arguing, or rather I started to ask him directly if he was messing with my head while he was conveniently going to my place and in the meantime he was looking for a more suitable option for himself. He has now become cold to me, I feel it, there is no that love, those “missed me” as before, there is just “leave me alone”, “I love you, calm down. Now this weekend I was going to visit him (God bless my mother, she often helps me with the kids and never mind being with them). To my coming, he said he would come himself, now he tells me he can’t, he can only come the day after tomorrow. I asked why, he says because he will go the next day in the morning with a friend to save money.
So tell me, am I just so worried? He tells me if I get that nervous, he can’t stand it, so we’ll have to break up. This is despite the fact that this man keeps telling me a hundred times a day that he loves me. My youngest son is fond of him, and he is very good to him, and I went to him and with the kids, and he now rents a room, so the kids are not very good, only around town all together to walk around. And after that I catch myself jealous and realize that talk about living together has subsided, even though he is at work. I also really do not like the fact that he began to spend a lot of time in social networks, probably from nothing to do in the evenings, but why so often ignores me, and about half an hour does not see that I called him or wrote. He tells me that everything will be as he wants, that, of course, we will live together, only I need not be nervous, not to bother him.
This is my situation. I am writing, excited again, I hope that I have made the situation more or less understandable, I would be grateful for feedback, I want to understand if this is about me and I am too picky or if I do have reasons to worry?
