I was 20 years old. I studied to be a designer, worked. As long as I remember in my youth, guys always met me, fell in love, wanted to get married. I dated (without intimacy), we talked, we were friends. I understood that they were not bad, neither was I, but it was just my infatuation, their attention and care, there was no love. I wanted to love, but I didn’t feel it.
All the guys were young, interesting, sociable, handsome, but there was something I didn’t fall in love with. And then another third guy came along. I was friends with him, very handsome, talking, wooing, loving. He was 32 years old, nice guy. We started dating, parks, yard, talking on the phone, there was no intimacy and no reason for it either. He was not poor (for some reason everyone was previous and this one was not poor, and who was ready to get married). I myself am also well off, in a full family, smart, kind, interesting, beauty is not lacking, brought up.
And then this guy (let the name be Max) wants to marry me, I replied that so little time has passed, not so well know each other. And after some more time he said: “then I got married and now you’re my wife.” I did not believe it, I asked him again, he smiled and said that he had connections, that he checked my documents and helped me in the registry office (albeit without my participation). Of course I was shocked. He came and told me that I was going to live with him, that there would be a wedding, gifts and all that, that now we are a family.
I realized that I did not fall in love, I wanted to break up, but he had already come with such a surprise and stunned me. And I was not going anywhere, just how can you get married so quickly (he went to me for 3 months) and want to marry me so quickly, I do not have it in my head. Those guys at least proposed, called, there was talk of rejection, there everything is more understandable. But here he did it all by himself! I naturally did not have time to love him (or could not).
I liked him, but because of that I would not accept the fact that he has a business, apartment, car, status, family. I told him several times, he was silent, we never got together. He left for another country, and I remained his wife. I went two times to change everything, nothing worked for me, and left it alone, it has been two years. He does not divorce himself, and I am also his wife. I decided to take advantage of the expensive process and collected money, I want to determine the divorce.
It hit me, even refuse a serious relationship. His brother met at the mall with his family and children, when he saw me, took me aside, left the family aside. He said that I had ruined his life, that he was unmarried, had no children, no girlfriend, he had struck out at work, and told me a lot of things about him and in general. Of course this news makes me feel uncomfortable, but I could not get married without love, although I know that many girls do this, and are only waiting to get married and take him as a wife.
I read all kinds of life stories here, and here’s a confession about a girl waiting for a guy to get married, here I wrote my story too. I, because I have a husband, can’t date and fall in love with someone else. So I set myself up and am waiting for the divorce trial. And it didn’t work out the first time because of his refusal to consent to the divorce.
My parents know and supported me, they created a family for love, I would want that too. And so I did not want to build a life without love, and it turned out that he and I spoiled my life.
Write your comments, I want to at least just read, I am able to speak out, but of course it does not get easier. Only my parents know, and his family, it is even embarrassing to talk about it or to tell, so we are silent.
