In someone else’s story everything seems obvious, how to act, but when it comes to myself, there’s a complete blockage. I don’t know what to do.
Husband. Relationship’s fine. Home, full bowl. Two grown and beloved daughters. It is very popular these days to hate mothers, we are all terrible. The older daughter has matured to the age where her mother seems nice. We get along, call and text every day, communicate. I used to be a nightmare for her.
We had a normal relationship with my youngest, she wanted to live with us all the time during pregnancy. The child from 9 months left us in the city where I live, here he first went to kindergarten at the age of 2. My daughter was working at the time. We adore our grandson, he’s a really great kid. He lived with us for months. He loves us too, but mom is mom, has been living with his mom lately. That’s great. Everything seemed to be fine. We were communicating normally and all of a sudden, it turns out that I’m a terrible mom and all of my daughter’s problems are because of me. It could be. I’m not a psychologist. I love my children as much as I could, I raised them, I gave them an education, they turned out beautiful, healthy, working.
My daughter cannot see me, she has the right. But my eldest daughter is going to come to my city one of these days on business. My youngest is also going with her on business. Who hates it. I don’t want to go out with her. And I do not want to not let her in the house either. Let her come. The grandson and his grandfather to talk. Grandfather (my daughters stepfather) also loves him very much. But I myself at the time of the arrival of the youngest want to go away so as not to see each other. Let them visit in peace.
I am confused. To adjust the relationship with the younger will not work, as a psychologist convinced her (probably so), that all her problems from childhood. It shakes her from me.
Should I leave the house for a while or make her nervous?
