I find myself in a very ambiguous situation. Many friends and my sister do not understand what I still lack. Only one friend supported me, and now I mostly communicate only with her, so I don’t get myself wound up.
I have been married for a long time, my husband and I have lived together for ten years. He is a very good man, attentive, affectionate, caring, but there are also disadvantages – he is very stubborn. It seems like a small thing, but if he decided something, it is easier to give in, it will still be as he says. For ten years, such cases were few, can be counted on the fingers of one hand, so that I can not say that all bad.
In the fall my husband was offered a position in another city, and we moved. In our town we had a place to live (we each had our own pre-marital apartment) and a job, but my husband was always drawn to the big city. We moved to a town not far from the capital (30 minutes by car). Renting an apartment for one year is paid by the company, so that with housing issues did not arise. In addition, we have enough money to buy housing in this city.
It seems all well and nice, but there is one “but” – on the profile I can not find work in this city, there are proposals in the capital itself. And then the notorious stubbornness of my husband, he does not let me get a job. No, he does not mind that I work, but he puts a number of conditions – a five-day week with days off on Saturday and Sunday, that the work was in this city, but not in two hours’ drive from home, that there was no work-at-home as in the last job.
And there’s no such thing here. No, there is, of course, but for so much money that my husband laughs and says that he will pay me such a salary himself, and he sees no point in such activity. I’m at a dead end. If I look for a job according to my husband’s requirements, the salary is a laughing stock. If you look for something that fits the development, it does not suit my husband. And even family vied with each other saying that I do not appreciate what I have, my husband provides, to work does not drive, and I am so ungrateful.
And I can not understand how you can sit at home, I’m already climbing the wall of boredom. I can not say that I am a career woman, but the head of the department managed to work, so that just sit papers shift for three kopecks will not be able to. And my husband gets angry when I start going to interviews that match my qualifications. Of course, it does not come to a divorce, but we started to fight, which was not since college days.
No, he is not trying to assert himself at my expense, we used to work in the same industry. The change of work was also due to the fact that my husband wants to spend more time with his family. He used to leave for work at five in the morning and return well if by eight, often called to work on weekends. So the fact that I was also at work didn’t bother him, I was arriving earlier anyway. Now, with more pay, he spends much less time at work (the level of the position has not changed), so he wants me to be at home, too.
Sorry for the rambling, but I wanted to convey all the absurdity of the situation
How can I influence my husband? I really want to work! Divorce is not an option, neither he nor I will ever go for it.
