My husband and I have been renting an apartment for five years. We were saving up for our own until my husband became unemployed. He doesn’t sit at home, he’s always looking for another one, but so far to no avail.
My parents decided to surprise me and bought me an apartment in their city. I left for the capital eight years ago, and I’m not going back. It’s hard to get a job even here at this time, and there’s nothing to do in the provinces. I knew that they had collected a considerable amount of money, but I thought they would help us buy an apartment here.
My mother, seeing my reaction, was offended. She said I was ungrateful, they were saving on everything, and I didn’t appreciate it. But why do I need an apartment in a small town? There are no jobs here, no prospects, too. When I went to visit my parents, I saw that things were even sadder than they were before I left. And now I have real estate in a place like this! Renting it out for pennies when we’re paying a decent amount of rent here!
But my parents don’t want to understand me. They could have at least consulted me. My father said that they didn’t want to contribute to our shared apartment with my husband. After all, his parents said they could not help, they have no money, they themselves have three loans. I agree with my father, I even suspect that my husband secretly helps his parents by taking out one loan on himself. Once I saw a report from the bank on my phone that the amount was deposited, I told my husband, but he replied that it was a one-time help to my parents and they would return the money. There were no more conversations on this topic, and I understand that no one returned the money.
My dad and mom seemed to have judged everything correctly, but still I felt sorry for the money so futilely spent. Mom went on principle and put the apartment for sale. But so far there are no willing buyers. She has already lowered the price. The question is, what kind of investment for the future is this, if housing can not be sold without losses? The apartment is empty, and utilities must be paid. Mom has already hinted that this is my problem. But the problem he and my father have created and not just for themselves.
My husband knows about the apartment and constantly asks when they will sell it to add us money. To my question as to why my parents should give money and his not, my husband replied, “because they have it and mine doesn’t.” I was struck by that answer.
Maybe my parents were right and I had wronged them for nothing.
