I became convinced that there are no ex-wives. My husband divorced his wife ten years ago, and five years later he met me. He had affairs, but he married me.
With his ex-wife they have a child together, which she is trying to manipulate, calling him almost every day. He has problems at his daughter’s school, or she misses him, or she needs money. The woman doesn’t work anywhere, she is on maternity leave with her third child. But she still does not have a personal life, she is alone. She had her second child with her roommate, and her third child with no one at all.
I’m not afraid that my husband will go to her. If he didn’t come back right after their divorce, when it was just his own child, then two strangers will definitely stop him. But I can no longer tolerate her presence in our lives. I asked my husband to communicate only with my daughter, not to give money to my ex-wife, since she also supports other people’s children with it. It is enough that he pays alimony and clothes for my daughter. On his birthday he gives expensive gifts. He bought a smartphone for New Year’s and a laptop computer in the summer. Before coronavirus once we took the girl with us to the sea. Vacation she transferred us, but I put up with it, because not every year it happens.
It turns out that the ex-wife begs him for money for himself? But I do not like it. I also think that she is doing it on purpose, so that my husband and I have quarrels. She understands that he is not going back to her, but she wants him to fail in family life. After a big scandal, I told her that if he didn’t stop talking to her, I was going to pack up and move back to my apartment. Now his daughter calls him every day and always in the evenings when we are both home. This interferes with our communication. I understand that her mother is setting her up, but can’t my husband limit contact? Telling his daughter (she’s 14 now) to call once a week and in the afternoon when he’s at work.
Because of this close contact with my ex-family, I am hesitant to have a child together. That’s what I told him.
