I finally realized that my opinion in my new family meant nothing. What they want, they do, without even asking my opinion.
I always came to all holidays, to all events, I did not miss them. But I thought at least on my birthday I will not be touched, or ask me personally suddenly I have plans for the day. Suddenly I wanted a romantic dinner with her husband, to finally be together, as we rarely get it (we live with my mother-in-law), or go out with friends, meeting with my parents. They didn’t even ask about it, they just started setting their own conditions. At first they said to come over in the afternoon and sit down. I thought the evening would be free, and I would decide for myself. Then they decided to do it in the evening, since everyone was working. And after that, I was very offended that they didn’t even call my parents as a courtesy.
Now after all this, my husband says the other day, “the two of us get out and no one else. I don’t even feel like it after all this. I realized that I will always be in the background.
Let me explain the situation. In this family commands the grandmother and always decides for everyone herself. I realized this only after marriage. My husband had always promised me before marriage that we would always make any decisions ourselves, and no one would pry. But in the end, that wasn’t the case.
I wanted to let my husband know and said: “I don’t want that next year, and I’ll decide what I’m going to do myself.” The answer surprised me: “I can tell you that next year will be like this and you can not do anything. Grandmother, as she says, so it will be.
And now I have one cold and disgusted with my husband. That even protection I never feel from his side, understanding and support.
